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Monday, December 2, 2013


Monday Morning Coffee


"You can not do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late"

~Ralph Waldo Emerson


Remember when, as a kid, you took the wishbone from the Thanksgiving turkey, set it aside, and let it dry for several days?  You probably argued with bothers and sisters about who would get to make the wish.  Then, finally, you took the end, made your wish, got the bigger piece and . . . nothing happened.

On a recent news interview, someone made the statement that "Hope is not a method."  Neither is wishing.  On a cold autumn day, you can hope or wish you were warm all day long, but until you turn up the therostat or build a fire, nothing will change.  Action always produce results. 

So we just "gave thanks" last week for all our blessings.  Chances are gook that what you call "blessings" did not occur as a result of wishes and hopes.  You probably reached out and worked hard - you took action = to allow them to come into your life.  If you did - good for you. 

Not everyone can do that.  Unfortunately, a great percentage of the population lives only on hope and wishes.  They just do not have the ability to comprehend the concept of cause and effect.  Nor do they possess the motivation or skills to act on their circumstances.  The result? Their Blessing are fewer than most.

Since you are blessed with the ability to make things happen, why not reach out this holiday season to those who aren't.  Dont expect anything in return, and whatever you do - do it anonyously.  You'll be twice blessed!


"He was a self-made man who owed his lack of success to nobody"

~Joseph Heller


Whoever heard of an unsuccessful "self-made" man?  Does anybody set out to become a failure?  Well, of course not, but a lot of people who end up that way often end up finding fault with their circumstances or the people that surround them.

What is so honorable about Joseph Heller's man is that he doesn't blame anyone for his admitted lack of success.  And just because he hasn't reached the summit, it doesn't stop him from feeling like a self-made man or taking full responsibility.  He is still confident in himself and accepting of his situation.

We should be careful, however, not to confuse acceptance with apathy.  Accepting the way things are does not make us weak, because acceptance acknowledges the difference between the things we can change and those over which we have no control.  Blame and apathy are the benchmarks of someone who has relinquished their control.

Part of the secret of taking the sour with the sweet is applying our own perspective and coming to grips with your control or lack of control over the circumstances and the results.  If you screwed up, so be it, as long as you personally accept your responsibility before someone else tries to make you feel incompetent.  And if it wasn't your fault, why in the world would you let someone try to convince you otherwise?

Eleanor Roosevelt has been attributed with wisely observing, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."  This explains the implied confidence of the gentleman in today's quote.  He's not "successful", yet by blaming no one but himself, he avoids the contempt and derision of his peers.  In other words, as long as you are comfortable with yourself and your decisions, no one can touch you.  Follow your bliss!


                                    INSPIRATION FOR TODAY:

"What isn't tried won't work."
~ Claude McDonald
We're all familiar with the idea that the things we really regret are the things that we never did. Our mistakes are easier to live with because at least we dared to achieve something, even if we failed. So when we fear to try, and fear to succeed or fail, what do we do? We complain.
But have you noticed that folks only complain about things that can actually be changed? How useless is it to complain about the weather, after all? A violent thunderstorm may wreck our plans, but we ultimately just accept it and adjust our plans to accommodate Mother Nature. But our real complaints are based on the belief that there is something better out there.
Believing in something better is different from achieving something better. The difference is risk. We may believe there's a better job out there, but we may risk being unemployed to find it. We may believe there is a better partner for us, but we may risk being alone while we search. We may believe there is a better solution to a problem at work, but we risk ridicule when we share our ideas.
How could it be better to just complain about something, when you can actually risk having everything you desire? Charles Dubois wrote that "the important thing is this. To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become." Why have a problem letting go of mediocrity? Why fear accomplishing your dreams and becoming the person you want to be?
Stop complaining to colleagues about your personal life, stop complaining to your spouse about work! Stop complaining to anyone who cannot help you make a change. Go straight to the source of your unhappiness and start working toward your vision. If you know it can better, make it so, or simply remain where you are. Doing nothing risks nothing, but risking something could give you everything!
Enjoy your week!